Baby Use Sign Language

Just because your baby cannot talk, it does not mean that he or she is incapable of communication. A baby is capable of communicating even before he or she learns to form words. This form of communication happens through signs that babies use. Every baby uses sign language but, most of the times they don't make sense to adults. Some of these signs used in baby language are common. For example, all babies rub their eyes when they are sleepy.

 Here are some of the common signs that are a part of baby language.

Rubbing Eyes: 
It means that the baby is sleepy and must be put to bed. 

Clutching The Head or Pulling Hair:
This sign clearly indicates that something is bothering the child. It could be an internal problem like headache or an external factor like mosquitoes that is bothering the baby.

Clutching The Stomach:
 This indicates stomach pain. Most often it is colic pain which is very severe form of stomachache that occurs in babies between the ages of 1 to 12 months. 

Calling Signs: 
Almost all babies Learn the sign for calling instinctively. They raise their palms and fold their fingers repeatedly to call someone.

 Pointing: 
This sign too comes naturally to babies. They usually point at the things they want or point to the door if they want to taken out. But when it comes to the more complicated signs in baby language, the problem arises. So what you have to do is teach your baby a sign language that you both can mutually understand. There are a number of ways to do this.

 Playing Dumb-she-razz:
 Just like you play the game of dumb-she-razz, you can teach your baby sign language. Act out simple instructions to him or her. Like, if you want to do potty, make a 'poop' sound. Babies pick up sounds very easily. 

Flash Cards:
 Many day centres use flash cards to teach babies to talk. You can use the same at home to develop a sign language with your baby.

Bonding With Newborn

Bonding is the intense attachment that develops between parents and their baby. It makes parents want to shower their baby with love and affection and to protect and nourish their little one. Bonding gets parents up in the middle of the night to  feed their hungry baby and makes them attentive to the baby's wide range of cries.

Scientists are still learning a lot about bonding. They know that the strong ties between parents and their child provide the baby's first model for intimate relationships and foster a sense of security and positive self-esteem. And parents' responsiveness to an infant's signals can affect the child's social and cognitive development.

Why Is Bonding Important?

Bonding is essential for a baby. Studies of newborn monkeys who were given mannequin mothers at birth showed that, even when the mannequins were made of soft material and provided formula to the baby monkeys, the babies were better socialized when they had live mothers to interact with. The baby monkeys with mannequin mothers also were more likely to suffer from despair. Scientists suspect that lack of bonding in human babies can cause similar problems.

Most infants are ready to bond immediately. Parents, on the other hand, may have a mixture of feelings about it. Some parents feel an intense attachment within the first minutes or days after their baby's birth. For others — especially if the baby is adopted or has been placed in intensive care — it may take a bit longer.

But bonding is a process, not something that takes place within minutes and not something that has to be limited to happening within a certain time period after birth. For many parents, bonding is a byproduct of everyday caregiving. You may not even know it's happening until you observe your baby's first smile and suddenly realize that you're filled with love and joy.

The Ways Babies Bond

When you're a new parent, it often takes a while to understand your newborn and all the ways you can interact:

• Touch becomes an early language as babies respond to skin-to-skin contact. It's soothing for both you and your baby while promoting your baby's healthy growth and development.
• Eye-to-eye contact provides meaningful communication at close range.
• Babies can follow moving objects with their eyes.
• Your baby tries — early on — to imitate your facial expressions and gestures.
• Babies prefer human voices and enjoy vocalizing in their first efforts at communication. Babies often enjoy just listening to your conversations, as well as your descriptions of their activities and environments.

Making an Attachment

Bonding with your baby is probably one of the most pleasurable aspects of infant care. You can begin by cradling your baby and gently stroking him or her in different patterns. If you and your partner both hold and touch your infant frequently, your little one will soon come to know the difference between your touches. Each of you should also take the opportunity to be "skin to skin" with your newborn by holding him or her against your own skin when feeding or cradling.

Babies, especially premature babies and those with medical problems, may respond to infant massage. Because babies aren't as strong as adults, you'll need to massage your baby very gently. Before trying out infant massage, be sure to educate yourself on proper techniques by checking out the many books, videos, and websites on the subject. You can also contact your local hospital to find out if there are classes in infant massage in your area.

Breastfeeding and bottle-feeding are both natural times for bonding. Infants respond to the smell and touch of their mothers, as well as the responsiveness of the parents to their needs. In an uncomplicated birth, caregivers try to take advantage of the infant's alert period immediately after birth and encourage feeding and holding of the baby. However, this isn't always possible and, though ideal, immediate contact isn't necessary for the future bonding of the child and parent.

Adoptive parents may be concerned about bonding with their baby. Although it might happen sooner for some than others, adopted babies and their parents can bond just as well as biological parents and their children.

Bonding With Daddy

Men these days spend more time with their infants than dads of past generations did. Although dads frequently yearn for closer contact with their babies, bonding frequently occurs on a different timetable, partially because they don't have the early contact of breastfeeding that many moms have.

But dads should realize, early on, that bonding with their child isn't a matter of being another mom. In many cases, dads share special activities with their infants. And both parents benefit greatly when they can support and encourage one another.

Early bonding activities that both mom and dad can experience together include:

• participating together in labor and delivery
• feeding (breast or bottle); sometimes dad forms a special bond with baby when handling a middle-of-the-night feeding and diaper change
• reading  or singing  to baby
• giving the baby a bath
• mirroring baby's movements
• mimicking baby's cooing and other vocalizations — the first efforts at communications.
• using a front baby carrier during routine activities
• letting baby feel the different textures of dad's face

Building a Support System

Of course, it's easier to bond with your baby if the people around you are supportive and help you develop confidence in your parenting abilities. That's one reason experts recommend having your baby stay in your room at the hospital. While taking care of a baby is overwhelming at first, you can benefit from the emotional support provided by the staff and start becoming more confident in your abilities as a parent. Although rooming-in often is not possible for parents of premature babies or babies with special needs, the support from the hospital staff can make bonding with the infant easier.

At first, caring for a newborn can take nearly all of your attention and energy — especially for a breastfeeding mom. Bonding will be much easier if you aren't exhausted by all of the other things going on at home, such as housework, meals, and laundry. It's helpful if dads can give an extra boost with these everyday chores, as well as offer plenty of general emotional support.

And it's OK to ask family members and friends for help in the days — even weeks — after you bring your baby home. But because having others around during such a transitional period can sometimes be uncomfortable, overwhelming, or stressful, you might want to ask people to drop off meals, walk the dog, or watch any of the new baby's siblings outside the home.

Factors That May Affect Bonding

Bonding may be delayed for various reasons. Parents-to-be may form a picture of their baby having certain physical and emotional traits. When, at birth or after an adoption, you meet your baby, reality might make you adjust your mental picture. Because a baby's face is the primary tool of communication, it plays a critical role in bonding and attachment.

Hormones can also significantly affect bonding. While nursing a baby in the first hours of life can help with bonding, it also causes the outpouring of many different hormones in mothers. Sometimes mothers have difficulty bonding with their babies if their hormones are raging or they have postpartum depressions. Bonding can also be delayed if a mom's exhausted and in pain following a prolonged, difficult delivery.

If your baby spends some time in intensive care, you may initially be put off by the amount and complexity of equipment. But bonding with your baby is still important. The hospital staff can help you handle your baby through openings in the isolette (a special nursery bassinet). When your baby is ready, the staff will help you hold him or her. In the meantime, you can spend time watching, touching, and talking with your baby. Soon, your baby will recognize you and respond to your voice and touch.

Nurses will help you learn to bathe and feed your baby. If you're using breast milk you've pumped, the staff, including a lactation consultant, can help you make the transition to breastfeeding before your baby goes home. Some intensive care units also offer rooming-in before you take your baby home to ease the transition.

Is There a Problem?

If you don't feel that you're bonding by the time you take your baby to the first office visit with your child's doctor, discuss your concerns at that appointment. It may be a sign of postpartum depression. Or bonding can be delayed if your baby has had significant, unexpected health issues. It may just be because you feel exhausted and overwhelmed by your newborn's arrival.

In any event, the sooner a problem is identified, the better. Health care providers are accustomed to dealing with these issues and can help you be better prepared to form a bond with your child.

Also, it often helps to share your feelings about bonding with other new parents. Ask about parenting classes for parents of newborns.

Bonding is a complex, personal experience that takes time. There's no magic formula and it can't be forced. A baby whose basic needs are being met won't suffer if the bond isn't strong at first. As you become more comfortable with your baby and your new routine becomes more predictable, both you and your partner will feel more confident about all of the amazing aspects of raising your little one.

BABY TIPS FOR NEW MOMS

Being a new mom can be overwhelming. You're trying to adjust to a new schedule, new demands and new little being. Here are a few tips to help you make the transition to new mom with less stress.

TRY AND TRY AGAIN

While you are learning what your baby will respond well to – when it comes to putting him to sleep, feeding time and even play time – don't be afraid to try different techniques. If she is fussing while you are rocking her in your arms, try putting her up against your shoulder; if you put her down and she starts crying, offer her a pacifier or try putting her in the infant swing. While you are getting used to your babies likes and dislikes, you may need to test out several different things before you find what really makes her smile.

LET YOUR BABY TELL YOU WHAT SHE NEEDS

Instead of forcing a schedule on a newborn, feel out her needs for a few days. Let her eat on-demand without applying an "every two hour" schedule. She may need to eat more often than that, especially in the first few weeks.

DON'T OVEREXPOSE

While you don't have to rush your baby home from the hospital and keep him isolated in the house for the first two months of his life, it's not a bad idea to limit his exposure to big crowds and lots of other kids, especially during flu season.

LISTEN TO YOUR GUT

As a new mom, you may get more advice on how to raise your child than you ever hoped to hear! Take it all with a grain of salt —just because grandma put her kids down to sleep on their stomachs, doesn't mean you should too. Things have changed! Ultimately, you know your baby best. Listen to her clues and your own instincts.

GET SOME ZZZ'S

Lack of sleep might be one of the most difficult parts of new motherhood! So if baby goes down for a morning snooze, follow suit and lie down. Even if you don't actually fall asleep, the downtime will replenish you.

MAKE SURE BABY'S CAR SEAT IS PROPERLY INSTALLED

Your baby's safety is paramount, and having a car seat won't protect your baby to the fullest extent if it's not installed properly. Contact your local fire department to see if they can install it for you.

BE PREPARED

One thing's for sure: you never know what to expect when it comes to a newborn! When you leave the house, make sure you are equipped with an extra change of clothes for baby, plenty of diapers and wipes, an extra towel, pacifier and a bottle of milk or formula in case she gets hungry earlier than you anticipated.

GET SOME ALONE TIME

Every day, carve out some time that is just for you. Between feeding, changing and trying to get your baby down to sleep, you may find yourself emotionally depleted. Take a quick bath, read a magazine for 10 minutes or paint your toenails while baby enjoys the swing or bouncy seat.

STAY CALM

If you are feeling frustrated, take a time out. Put baby in the crib or another safe spot and take a 10-minute breather. If you're stressed, baby will pick up on your tension.

DON'T BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP

They don't say, "It takes a village…" for nothing! Raising a baby is hard work, but you don't have to go it alone. Enlist your hubby, your parents and your friends to help out when things get tough.